For many rat owners, losing one of their best furry friends is a very emotional and painful experience. Often, friends and family might not understand the extent of your grief over the loss of a ‘rat’.
What they fail to understand is that you had a deep connection with your friend on a soul level and that they were a close friend, just like a human friend.
Please take heart and know that many pet carers share this same deep grieving when they lose a beloved animal friend.
Many people have different ways of coping with grief, it is important to allow yourself time and space to grieve in the way that only you can. Sometimes, it is helpful to pay a tribute to your friend through creating a pictorial record of their life or by sharing an obituary on a rat forum.
Do whatever feels right for you to help you come to terms with your loss. Give yourself time before you feel yourself again. It can take me around 2-3 months before I feel mostly recovered from the loss of a ratty friend. Having other ratties to take care of also helps. They can also feel the loss of a close friend, so they need your comfort and presence to help them with their grief too.
What helps me is knowing that these little beings had a wonderful life with me they may never have otherwise had. And also, my own faith in a Conscious Loving Creator gives me a sense that there is no end to life, but only the physical relinquishing of a material form no longer able to sustain itself.
Also, the passing of your present rat(s) also makes room for even more rats to enter your life and enjoy the love and wonderful lifestyle you have to give them.
Many people hurt so badly that they say they don’t want another rat(s). Hopefully, after a little time, once over their grief, they will realise that although it was painful to lose their friend, they also had many many hours of joy and fun with them. And so did the rats with them!
In the film ‘Ghost’ Swayze’s character said at the end ‘ You take the love with you’. And I think that’s true. Love is invisible and yet it is without doubt that it exists. Just remember that each one of your rats takes the love back to the Creator and feeds that back into the Universe. It’s a wonderful thought isn’t it?
You are blessed to have known each one of your wonderful furry friends and they were blessed to have known and shared their lives with you.
If you are really struggling with loss, please share how you feel with rat carers on a forum like http://www.fancyratsforum.co.uk who will understand and empathise with how you feel.
Or contact an online pet bereavement counseller.
A book I recommend for the open minded is ‘Animals And The Afterlife’ by Kim Sheridan. It’s a wonderful book with many true accounts from pet owners who have experienced messages or contact with the pets they have lost. This book helped me a lot in coping with loss and the author has been caring for rats for many years that made it particularly meaningful for me.
I have also experienced ‘contact’ with my rats on the other side of life, and that has made me realise without a doubt, that life continues.
“There is no death, only the relinquishing of a form that temporarily embodied the spirit as part of the play of creation. Essence/Spirit cannot die, it is all around us within everything that comes into being or form. It’s the energy that animates our bodies and is the Source of creation. It is that which gives life to the form or being and simply lets go of form when the matter cannot sustain itself any longer due to illness or ageing. For all matter is subject to decay in this third dimensional existence, but life or spirit always Is. Forms will always come and go but Spirit/Life Always Is, Here and Now, Forever and Ever.” (Anabrese)
Healing Wishes and Love To You and Your Rats, Wherever They May Be!